Divorce in the 1920s: Why more couples called it quits in the jazz age even though it was still taboo

Divorce in the 1920s

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Divorce in the 1920s: The rise of a social taboo

The 1920s saw shifting attitudes on love, marriage, and personal freedom, but divorce was still a loaded topic. While the flapper era hinted at a new kind of independence for women, getting out of an unhappy marriage was still complicated and often stigmatized. This was a decade when divorce was more available than ever, yet still unusual enough to spark gossip and even social isolation. Understanding how divorce was viewed in the 1920s gives us a window into the early battles for women’s rights, the struggle to shake old social expectations, and a surprising number of courtroom appearances over love gone wrong.

Divorce and women’s rights

Divorce in the 1920s wasn’t easy for women, both socially and legally. Though the decade brought more freedoms for women — from the right to vote to more choices in education and employment — their ability to exit a marriage was often limited by state laws and cultural expectations. Most states still required one party to be “at fault,” such as proving abuse or adultery, to justify a divorce.

Women who sought separation without these grounds could face severe scrutiny or even be barred from financial support afterward. Divorce proceedings were also public and often scandalous, leaving many women to weigh their personal happiness against the risk of losing financial stability or their social standing.

How socially acceptable was divorce in the 1920s?

Culturally, divorce in the 1920s was something of a mixed bag. On the one hand, modern values were emerging, especially in cities where the jazz age buzzed with a more progressive mindset. However, for much of the country, divorce remained a stigma, often seen as a personal failure or even a moral shortcoming. Many couples stayed together for fear of the social fallout that could come with ending a marriage.

Yet, despite this stigma, the decade saw a steady increase in divorce rates, reaching nearly 15 per 1,000 people by the late 1920s. Compared to the Victorian era, where rates were often closer to 5 per 1,000, it was clear that more people were willing to part ways. This trend continued into the mid-20th century, with rates peaking in the 1970s when divorce became much more socially acceptable.

Why did couples divorce in the 1920s?

Interestingly, the most common reasons for divorce in the 1920s remain familiar today. Based on vintage articles of the time, the top grievances included neglect, infidelity, cruelty, and alcohol abuse. These reasons highlight that, while social rules around divorce have changed, the motivations have stayed relatively constant. These glimpses into the courtroom reveal much about the era’s take on love, duty, and the tough decisions people faced when marriage didn’t go as planned.

If you’re curious to see how newspapers covered these stories, we’ve gathered some fascinating vintage articles that capture the drama, taboos and trends around divorce in the 1920s. Take a look to see how these early reports tell the tale of changing social tides and the people who braved them to seek a fresh start.

Reasons couples get divorced: Some of the indignities

Indignities alleged by wives in petitions for divorce included among the decrees granted in the last fiscal year covered a variety of offenses.

One plaintiff included among her allegations of humiliation suffered, that her husband refused to sit with her in church.

Another charged that her husband, who was a Lieutenant in the Dental Corps, USA, squandered all his money gambling.

One wife charged that her husband spent his evenings with his mother and sister, “rushing the beer can.”

Another charged her husband with teaching the baby to drink beer.

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One husband was accused of cursing his wife because she gave her daughter, by a former marriage, a pint of molasses. A score of wives charged that their husbands contracted diseases.

One woman charged, among other humiliations, that her husband refused to build the fires, and told her if she was cold, “there is the stove and the coal.”

One husband appeared as the plaintiff alleging indignities in that his wife accused him of flirting with his stenographer, his neighbors and various other women; accused him of flirting with every woman he passed while they were motoring; and telephoned his doctor to examine him for insanity, as she believed he was going crazy over women.

The top reasons couples get divorced (1920)


The trial divorce

by Dorothy Dix (Syndicated – September 1920)

We were discussing the case of the Smiths, who were divorced a year or two ago with much laundering of soiled linen in public, and who have just re-married.

“It is very common for people who have divorced each other to remarry,” said a famous lawyer, “and it would occur still oftener, except for the morbid dread most men and women have of appearing ridiculous. They think their friends would laugh at them if they went sneaking back into the same matrimonial fold out of which they have broken with such a tale of cruelty, and heartbreak, and general woe.

“I am convinced that the feeling that brings a young couple together and that is made up of the dreams and faith and romance and high hope of youth makes a bond between them that never quite breaks. It may wear pretty thin, and get frazzled in places. but you can patch it up so that it will hold to the end.

“I am also certain that when the average husband and wife quarrel and fall out they are not really out of love with each other, as they think they are. They are merely tired of each other. They have got on each other’s nerves instead of each other’s hearts, and what they need is a temporary separation instead of a permanent divorce.

“So when a wife comes and bedews the end of my desk with her tears, and tells me how cruel her husband is to her, and how he neglects her, and how she suspects that yellow-headed, stringy stenographer of his, though goodness knows what anybody can see in that made-up creature passes her comprehension, and will I please get her a divorce from the brute.

“And when a pale, grim-faced man asks me to apply for a divorce for him from a wife whose nagging and fretting he can no longer endure, and who admits, under cross-examination that he does think he would be happier with a younger woman, why, I say to them:

“‘Certainly, I think it would be highly immoral for two people to continue to live together who feel toward each other as you do. I will take the case, but only upon the condition that you separate for a year, and hold no communication, either by speech or letter with one another. You must do just as I say, and if at the end of the year, you still want the divorce, I will arrange the matter as quickly and with as little publicity as possible.’

“Then, if the husband is rich, I send the wife to Honolulu or Japan for a year, and I see that she does not get nearly as much money to spend as she has been in the habit of having. If the husband is a poor man, I send the wife back to live on her own people, and she gets only the small amount of money that she would have as alimony from a divorced husband earning the salary her’s does.

“Nine times out of ten, before the year is over, the warring couple have made up their difference and have taken their household goods out of storage and set up a new home, which generally is a happy one, for they have had a lesson that they are not likely to forget.”

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