Sensibility rivals glamour as men ponder marriage
Young fellows of marital age are attracted by sparkle of girl who knows nothing of keeping house, but still they like old-fashioned types
By Mrs Howe
An eligible young man who has begun to think seriously of marriage, ponders on the old questions of whether to marry the sparkling girl or the sensible one.
He knows them both. So observant is he, that he can weigh both their charms and faults on a scale as if they were so much sugar and flour.
The one girl is attractive, quiet, well-liked by all her friends. She is well-read, charming as a hostess, and capable in the kitchen.
The other girl is equally attractive, but she’s the pinwheel type — a glitter of sparks and sparkle. She thrives on excitement, adores dancing, doesn’t give a hang about cooking — has yet to prepare a tasty luncheon for the boyfriend. What’s more, most of his friends don’t care for her, due in great part, no doubt, to the fact that they are rooting for the more suitable girl.
The man himself, while realizing life would be tranquil and serene with the first girl, is far more intrigued by the other. Whom should he choose, he asks in a letter.
Sensible girl or firefly?
By all laws of reason and good judgment, he should choose the sensible girl. The other, in his eyes, holds greater fascination for him at present — but sparks have a way of causing friction.
With the firefly, he would have a few months of ecstasy. But one morning, when he faced a trying day at work, he would resent having the toast burned and the coffee bitter.
For a time, he would adore her pert ways and her whirlwind manner. But some evening when he brought the boss home to dinner, he would be irked at a carelessly-set table and a cindery steak.
If there should be a baby, she would make a pleasing picture with Junior cradled in her arms — but she would likely spoil him at every chance.
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A girl of her type, what’s more, would be unhappy with a man to whom these details were important. This girl is going to be much better off with a man who’ll love her for her whims and be amused at her culinary blunders.
By his own careful weighing of charms and faults, the young man shows that he isn’t after a mad, breathless romance even though he is tempted to plunge into one. What he really wants ia a wife who will make his life comfortable.
It is natural that considering the sane girl and the glittering one, the man’s eyes should be drawn to the latter. If he thinks that the fascination she has for him will be enough
to last through long years of marriage, he should ask her to be his bride.
But the fact that he is hesitating, shows his love for her isn’t doubt-free. All he wants is a little encouragement to marry the other girl — and here it is.
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