The value of a kiss

It should follow the engagement ring; It often precedes it, and no engagement follows

By Beatrice Fairfax

Old-fashioned kissing rules

“What,” asks a girl, “is the value of a kiss?”

The value of an article is the property which renders it useful, its price, its importance to the one owning it, and for that reason no one may give a standard value of a kiss any more than one could give the standard value of a vegetable or a flower, which, in its season, is so prodigal of fruit and blossom as to he Mlluclcss, and out of season so rare as to be beyond cost

The kiss is a flower of affection that blooms most profusely during the courtship. In such a period, the supply is unlimited, and increases instead of lessening with the demand. After marriage, this little blossom so rarely appears that a stray bloom is regarded with curiosity, and, alas, sometimes with suspicion.

What it means

Before marriage, the kiss is the favor granted. After marriage, it is the little herald of the favor to be asked.

The kiss is a relic of barbarism. Our cave parents bit at each other. We give proof that we have made little progress when we give a kiss that has its origin in neither respect nor love. It is no more than a bite; we may call it what we please, but it remains a bite.

The kiss is more often valueless than it is valuable. We should regard it as priceless, and receive and bestow it only as a mark of great love, but we have cheapened it by the frequency and lightness with which we give it. It should be the young girl’s proof of love for her sweetheart; too often each knows it has been given too many times to other lovers to have any significance beyond that of an overly‘ trustful nature.

Men have lost their lives for a kiss; more men have lost their reputations. It is responsible for sin, sorrow, suffering — and happiness. The foundation of one man’s security, it is the undermining of another’s.

A man will refuse to kiss his wife and cast her out from his home when another man kisses her. It is something which every man thinks he may give innocently, but which, when given by his wife, is evidence of guilt.

Its value

It is something the value of which depends on every individual. The girl who wants her kisses to possess high value kisses rarely. The girl who kisses indiscriminately cheapens the value of the product and piles up humiliation for herself.

The kiss is a delightful form of courtship which should be given less frequently so that, perhaps, there may be a supply after the wedding is over. For it is then when the cheer it gives, the hope it inspires, and the love it revives are needed the most.


About this story

Source publication: The El Paso Herald (Texas)

Source publication date: March 13, 1914

Notes: Advice to Girls

Filed under: 1910s, Love & marriage

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