Oddly enough, this advice on getting out of the house and hanging out with friends is nearly as relevant now as it was a hundred years ago. While the internet has done so much to change the nature of our relationships, we also realize that we could all benefit from a little more face-to-face contact.

“Getting together”

Don’t let any one persuade you that you are better off staying at home all the time. It does women a great deal of good in more ways than one to get away from home now and then.

Women who never go out, or eat at another’s table, get into a rut, and narrow down to a peck-measure existence that gives them no room to expand or to grow new ideas. Especially should the mother of young people get away often, in order to learn all she can of other homes, picking out the best of each for her own.

From such visits, wives go home with a greater appreciation of their own husbands, children and houses. They find that other women have things to bear, other husbands have deficiencies, other children faults and failings, other homes lacks fully as burdensome as their own. Then, too; they find the better parts, and find many things worthy of introduction into their own lives.

As to gossip; not all gossip is harmful. Much of the neighborhood news is really interesting and helpful, and in hearing of others, our own views are broadened. We learn many things that will help us, and make us happier. It is well to determine, before you start, that no harmful gossip shall be indulged in.

Save up scraps from your papers or magazines, especially the funny things, for a sense of humor should be cultivated; tell every pleasant thing you can think of, but keep the unpleasant hidden; in fact, don’t take it with you.

Learn to forget the faults and failings of others, if you have heard any. If somebody has said a pleasant thing of anyone present, remember to repeat it, for people starve sometimes for a little appreciation. If you know any helpful thing, any new methods of doing, take that with you.

Make your visit a bright spot for the other woman, as well as for yourself. Try to leave her happier than you found her, with a better and broader view of life and her surroundings.


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Source publication: The Commoner (Lincoln, Neb.)

Source publication date: December 01, 1911

Filed under: 1910s, Culture & lifestyle

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